Friday 20 September 2019

Divit's World at Eight Months


Mom is feeding me some paste with something she calls as purple spoon. Yakk, this doesn't taste great. These big people need to understand my choice. By now I know that feeding time means learning A,B,C,D and Johnny Johnny Yes Papa. And of course, the dog says bhaau bhauu and cat says meoww meoww. The thirsty crow is thirsty everyday, and slow and steady tortoise wins the race daily. I smile on hearing all this, because that makes you people happy and think that I am eating well. Oops! I turned my head towards that big illuminated object on the wall and leaked the paste out of my mouth, to my side. Look at Mumma's eyes, she seems angry... Never mind, all I have to do is smile or cry, either ways, I win!

They call me "Divit". I think that's my name, just like Mumma Daddy's names are Mumma and Daddy.

Mumma and Daddy go to a place called office.These people are talking about their day. I can't make sounds like they do. All I can do is say hummmmm, ummmmaa, bubububu, ahaaaan (clearing the throat), unngeee, giiiiiii, ammaaa, tattattata and so much more.

This world and its objects sound interesting. Those strange things that my tongue touches these days hurt me sometime. But they help me produce new sounds. And I want to chew everything with them. I want to chew my toys, and the bedsheet, and Mumma Daddy's dresses and tresses, the TV remote, my hands and even my feet! How can you really know something if you haven't put it in your mouth!

I am so curious to know how this world works. I want to see and touch and taste and hear everything.

Yesterday I went outside with Mumma and Daddy. There was so much light.There were so many big people. So many things running, some small, some big. Big people were sitting on those running things. Those things were making noise also. There were some big people who were walking like Mumma and Daddy with two feet. I have got 2 extra feet unlike them. I like walking, I mean crawling with those. I also try to stand and walk like these people. But when I try to hold the sofa and stand, I fall down. It hurts on my head and I cry. Mumma Daddy rush to me, lift me and take me to the window to show light and big people. I open my eyes wide to see them. It is wonderful!

Nowadays, Mumma and Daddy play a weird game with me, they hide behind the wall and appear again. They believe I am giggling back because it pleased me. Nah!


At my daycare, Atharv also has 4 feet like me, but Ahaan, Ayub, Amairaah, Kiara, Faaz and the aunties have 2 feet! They are different.

Few days back, something was running out of my nosy all the time. That thing came in my mouth also, it was so tasty. Mummy Daddy were wiping it with some soft soft thing.

Mumma Daddy are taking me into the room where we sleep. I hate sleeping, why do we have to sleep. Mumma and Daddy are saying "Good Night Divit". Oh no, please please Daddy don't pat on my side, please don't sing that lullaby Mumma. It will make me sleep. I have an idea, if I cry I can stay awake for little long. They soothed me. I am turning now, I like to sleep on my tummy. They are patting me again, Oh no, please I want to play. Zzzzzzzz I am not sleeping. No mosquitoe net please... No...zzzzzzz. khrrrrrrrrrrr...

2 hours later.

They are still sleeping, I slept enough. Time to scream the house down. They are awake now, whooppiiee. I am the Boss of the house!

Thursday 25 July 2019

Diary of a Daycare Mom




His rattles spread on the mattress, his soft toy Tuffy lying alone in the corner, his little pants and those wet nappies waiting to be picked up and a mountain of his laundry waiting to be washed.

I am already tired of packing and labelling stuff for his daycare adventure and googling to know when his first tooth would appear, browsing e-commerce sites to look for his needs, sterilizing those containers for him and preparing his feeds for the day.

It's been exactly 23 minutes since I dropped my 6 month old to his daycare center, sitting on the couch I already feel like it's already hours since I met him, saw his innocent smile, his cheery giggle and that unexpected cry. They call it separation anxiety and I call it motherhood.

I should be taking a nap now. But my heart thuds at the thought of, what if they call and say that your son is crying, and that he needs you, come over and check on him. What if I fall asleep and miss their call. I have anyway forgotten on how to sleep alone.

I have pit in my stomach and lump in the throat, even though I know that he is just 750 metres away as per google map on taking the shortest route. He was in the lap of the caregiver when I bid him goodbye, staring at me while I was walking out and then smiling at the lady. I was jealous of the caregiver, because I am his Mom and no one else is!

Am I a bad mother for handing my baby to someone else at such young age? Is my career that important? Is it that easy to pack his stuff and drop him to that center? 

For the past 6 months and 13 days I had been longing for some "me-time", read and write and pamper myself and do all that I want, and be myself. But in this span of time, I had forgotten that now I am his Mom first and myself later.

I never knew I would be so habitual of this little person in my life. No matter what the world says, no matter how many societal relations he has with family and extended family, I am the one who carried him inside me and I cannot be replaced. No one owns him as much as I do. Call it obsession or love for him.

Being apprehensive about his well being would last forever. Kids never stay with their parents forever, but a part of them stays in us till the end. And it's just the beginning. The sooner I let him practice being away from me, the better it would be.

Perhaps, the world may blame me for being a harsh mother, a career oriented woman or a parent paying others to bring her child up. My conscience might shake for a while and question me. But I will stand strong and do what it takes to make him a better person.

Because I am not a bad mother, I am doing this to make him independent, disciplined and a good human, and focussing on my career so that I give him a wonderful life.
I am sure my son will be proud of me when he grows up and reads all this.

Friday 12 July 2019

Happy Half Birthday Divit


We never knew,
Your delicate touch,
Will make us love you so much,


We never knew,
You will make our days shorter and nights longer,
Our clothes shabbier and life happier,


We never knew,
Those intial feelings of scare would turn into overwhelming joy,
And you will be our favorite toy,


We never knew,
The innocence in you will steal our hearts,
And with you we will begin our lives from the start,


We never knew,
How fast the days will go,
And we will enjoy seeing you grow,


We never knew,
Secretly we wish you stay a tiny baby forever,
And amaze us every moment forever!


Happy Half Birthday Divit

Tuesday 21 May 2019

किसका आधार मेरी पहचान


इस लेख का उद्देश्य रीतियों या व्यक्तियों पर नहीं किन्तु नीतियों पर कटाक्ष करना है।

प्रिय बदलती हुई सरकार/ पुनः लौटती हुई सरकार,

मेरे 4 माह के बेटे की पासपोर्ट अर्ज़ी इसलिए रद्द कर दी गयी क्योंकि मेरे आधार कार्ड में मेरे नाम के साथ अब तक मेरे पिता का नाम जुड़ा हुआ है। मेरा surname शादी के बाद भी मेरे पिता का ही surname है और मैं अब तक सभी सरकारी दस्तावेजों में मैं w/o की जगह d/o से ही जानी जाती हूं। और इसलिए मेरे बेटे के दस्तावेजों को अधूरा करार दिया गया।

मैंने सोचा था "मेरा आधार मेरी पहचान" है, किन्तु वर्तमान में घटित घटना से ज्ञात होता है मैं किसकी बेटी या पत्नी हूँ ये मेरी पहचान है। मुझे ना ही अपने साथ अपने पिता का नाम जोड़ने में शर्म आती है और ना ही अपने पति के नाम से जुड़ने में कोई झिझक। तो यह तो मेरी इच्छा पर होना चाहिए ना कि मैं किसका नाम अपने आधार में जोड़ना चाहती हूँ। हालांकि मैं भी मेरे पिता और पति की तरह एक स्वतंत्र करदाता हूँ, लेकिन मेरी अपनी पहचान रखने का मुझे कोई अधिकार नहीं है।

वैसे भी मेरे पुत्र के आधार में तो मेरा नाम आना नहीं है, तो उसकी अर्ज़ी रद्द करने का कारण मैं कैसे बन सकती हूँ। हालांकि उसके जन्म के पूर्व, जन्म के समय और जन्म के पश्चात एक माँ के तौर पे जो तकलीफ़ें मैंने सही उनके इनाम स्वरूप मुझे हर मदर्स डे पर एक कार्ड मिल ही जायेगा, आधार या पासपोर्ट का कार्ड नहीं, ग्रीटिंग कार्ड। मेरा बेटा फिर भी मेरे नाम से नहीं जाना जाएगा। वो सिर्फ उसके ननिहाल में उसकी माँ के नाम से जाना जाएगा।

इन सब के उपरांत यदि मेरे पिता का नाम मेरे आधार में लिखा भी है तो मैं समझती हूँ कि उसे बदलने का क्या औचित्य है, मैं तो हमेशा मेरे पिता की ही बेटी रहूंगी ना। मेरे अनुसार शादी के ख़र्च में 50 रुपये आधार में "सुधार" के लिए भी जोड़ देने चाहिए। या फिर हमारे देश में जैसे 6 माह का मातृत्व अवकाश होता है वैसे ही "पहचान परिवर्तन" अवकाश भी होना चाहिए जिसमें की हर वैवाहिक महिला अपने सभी पहचान पत्रों में पिता के नाम से जुड़ने की त्रुटि को सुधरवा सके।

मेरे पास और लिखने का समय नहीं है। मैं चली अपने आधार, पासपोर्ट, वीसा, ड्राइविंग लाइसेंस, बैंक एकाउंट, पैन कार्ड, क्रेडिट कार्ड, डेबिट कार्ड, आफिस रिकॉर्ड,  PF, वोटर पहचान पत्र इत्यादि में "सुधार" करवाने। गनीमत है सोशल मीडिया एकाउंट्स में परिवर्तन अनिवार्य नहीं है।

Thursday 18 April 2019

Kriti Agarwal: 10 Of The Best Self-help Books

Author Bio-
My name is Kriti Agarwal. I have always been fond of writing down my thoughts since childhood. It was a matter of time when that hobby became a passion and I decided to take on the professional path in the world of writing. Kriti also writes at  https://wrytin.com/kritia2 

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Flock

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is one of a few notable works of art on this rundown, however, I for one see it as the most reviving one.

On one side, this self-improvement guide is actually what it seems like: a manual for the propensities for fruitful, viable individuals. On the opposite side, however, there runs an extraordinarily significant suggestion that frames the genuine intensity of the book and the prime takeaway: living with reasonableness and honesty is the way to most extreme proficiency and achievement.

In our current reality where alternate routes, mystery arrangements, and contemptibility are noticeable, Covey's great lectures a message that the world needs like never before — and tells you the best way to apply it as basic, direct propensities.



2. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

On the off chance that you read one book on otherworldliness; you can't generally turn out badly with Tolle's exemplary The Power of Now. It isn't only a manual for otherworldly practice and how it can change your own life, it's manual for changing the world with the intensity of that training too.

The key takeaway here is that you can change the world with extra special care on the off chance that you take a shot at changing yourself from the back to front, and understanding that can work well for you for as long as you can remember.



3. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

On the total opposite side of the range, there's Rich Dad, Poor Dad.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad is to money related proficiency what The Power of Now is to profound practice. It presents you with a total arrangement of sound, valuable standards for living better, and all the more successfully with regards to cash and individual funds.

The book utilizes the difference between two characters, "poor father" and "rich father," to show different money related standards. The essential takeaway is that the individuals who aren't acceptable with their cash and have less are that way since they work for cash, though the individuals who are acceptable with their cash store up a greater amount of it since they figure out how to bring in cash work for them. They're all-inclusive statements, however, the exercises showed are no less important.

If you need to improve your capacity to deal with your accounts, Rich Dad, Poor Dad is the ideal bundle of edifying information and significant guidance.

 



4. Instructions to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie composed a few extraordinary self-improvement guides in his time, however How to Win Friends and Influence People is effectively his best. This book is a top dog with regards to figuring out how to function and speak with individuals, so I think of it as required perusing — particularly for a loner such as myself.

Carnegie works admirably of demonstrating that great correspondence truly has nothing to do with regular ability or smooth words, however realizing the correct strategies to use with interfacing with others, something everybody can do.

Correspondence is one of the absolute most significant aptitudes you can take a shot at, given how basic correspondence is to everything that we do. If you need (or trust you have) to improve as a communicator, or need to show signs of improvement at working with individuals, read this now.



5. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Think and Grow Rich is one of a few old-fashioned works of art on this rundown and its place is all around earned. For a long time, creator Napoleon Hill contemplated the best individuals of his time, including Henry Ford and Alexander Graham Bell, and chronicled those discoveries together into one perfect little bundle.

The principle takeaway? An engaged, deep longing (or the intensity of a made-up mind, what Wayne Dyer called goal), enables us to accomplish or gain what we need most throughout everyday life.

In case you're searching for experiences on the best way to accomplish your fantasy or a particular objective, this is great you can't manage without.

 

6. What to Say When You Talk to Your Self which is written by know Dr. Shad Helmstetter

This book profoundly affected me at a basic point in my life. A great that is not regularly recorded on best self-improvement guide records.

Our inward exchange holds tremendous measures of command over our life, affecting each choice we make every single day. The main issue is, our internal exchange is generally fantastically negative and foolish.

Things being what they are, what happens when you figure out how to ace this inward discourse and change it? Your whole life changes. I credit this book, to a limited extent, for helping me escape a troublesome spot in my life where I was working someplace, I knew didn't line up with my motivation yet didn't have the certainty or conviction to make the following stride.


7. The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Dr. Peale's exemplary is simply the quintessential assistance book, being one of only a bunch of early books from around the 1950s that formed the whole personal growth space all in all. Consequently, there are numerous subjects in the book that you'll see reverberated all through a considerable lot of different books on this rundown. Be that as it may, the point of view is marginally extraordinary and an invigorating change.

The estimation of positive reasoning is such a fundamental mantra of personal development that it's presently nearly ignored. The Power of Positive Thinking is incredible for anybody hoping to get back essentials and get familiar with a portion of the central exercises that are basic to trusting self-assurance and an idealistic mentality.



8. The Magic of Thinking Big written by known David J. Schwartz

The Magic of Thinking Big is a book that I'll generally recall since perusing it was likely the first occasion when I was acquainted with the genuine intensity of the psyche. Like Peale's Positive Thinking, this is another work of art, so the models and discourse that Schwartz utilizes are frequently engaging in themselves.

Regardless of anything else, The Magic of Thinking Big will show you not to bamboozle yourself. Plan for an impressive future, don't settle and watch as a straightforward move in the manner you think truly changes your outcomes.

 

9. Stir the Giant Within by Tony Robbins

Stir the Giant Within is likely Robbin's most notable self-improvement guide and, when you read it, you'll know why. A significant number of books on this rundown focus on a specific subject, yet this one doesn't. It gives you the entire damn thing, to say the least. Robbins offers his best guidance for improving your connections, certainty, funds, and finding your motivation.

Nonetheless, the principle takeaway and the subject that goes through the whole book is that you have an internal certainty, a monster inside, that you can stir by changing how you think in a basic way. What's more, doing so will permit you to make a genuine change in your life–regardless of the sort of progress you need to make occur. On the off chance that that is what you're searching for, plan to be overwhelmed.



10. Brave Greatly by Brené Brown

A significant number of books on this rundown are based on old-school thoughts of procurement and personal development. In case you're somewhat burnt out on all that (I don't accuse you), this will be a much-needed refresher.

The works of art are works of art for an explanation they work. They incorporate priceless astuteness which for anybody attempting to make an incredible dream or objective reality. Be that as it may, the more established works of art will in general disregard something significant: the difficulties we face all through life.

Of all self-improvement type books, analyst and writer Brené Brown's Daring Greatly strikes at the core of the most significant issue of all: our absence of self-esteem and battles with disgrace.