Tuesday, 23 June 2020

Kriti Agarwal: 10 Of The Best Self-help Books

Author Bio-
My name is Kriti Agarwal. I have always been fond of writing down my thoughts since childhood. It was a matter of time when that hobby became a passion and I decided to take on the professional path in the world of writing. Kriti also writes at  https://wrytin.com/kritia2 

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Flock

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is one of a few notable works of art on this rundown, however, I for one see it as the most reviving one.

On one side, this self-improvement guide is actually what it seems like: a manual for the propensities for fruitful, viable individuals. On the opposite side, however, there runs an extraordinarily significant suggestion that frames the genuine intensity of the book and the prime takeaway: living with reasonableness and honesty is the way to most extreme proficiency and achievement.

In our current reality where alternate routes, mystery arrangements, and contemptibility are noticeable, Covey's great lectures a message that the world needs like never before — and tells you the best way to apply it as basic, direct propensities.



2. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

On the off chance that you read one book on otherworldliness; you can't generally turn out badly with Tolle's exemplary The Power of Now. It isn't only a manual for otherworldly practice and how it can change your own life, it's manual for changing the world with the intensity of that training too.

The key takeaway here is that you can change the world with extra special care on the off chance that you take a shot at changing yourself from the back to front, and understanding that can work well for you for as long as you can remember.



3. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

On the total opposite side of the range, there's Rich Dad, Poor Dad.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad is to money related proficiency what The Power of Now is to profound practice. It presents you with a total arrangement of sound, valuable standards for living better, and all the more successfully with regards to cash and individual funds.

The book utilizes the difference between two characters, "poor father" and "rich father," to show different money related standards. The essential takeaway is that the individuals who aren't acceptable with their cash and have less are that way since they work for cash, though the individuals who are acceptable with their cash store up a greater amount of it since they figure out how to bring in cash work for them. They're all-inclusive statements, however, the exercises showed are no less important.

If you need to improve your capacity to deal with your accounts, Rich Dad, Poor Dad is the ideal bundle of edifying information and significant guidance.

 



4. Instructions to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie composed a few extraordinary self-improvement guides in his time, however How to Win Friends and Influence People is effectively his best. This book is a top dog with regards to figuring out how to function and speak with individuals, so I think of it as required perusing — particularly for a loner such as myself.

Carnegie works admirably of demonstrating that great correspondence truly has nothing to do with regular ability or smooth words, however realizing the correct strategies to use with interfacing with others, something everybody can do.

Correspondence is one of the absolute most significant aptitudes you can take a shot at, given how basic correspondence is to everything that we do. If you need (or trust you have) to improve as a communicator, or need to show signs of improvement at working with individuals, read this now.



5. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Think and Grow Rich is one of a few old-fashioned works of art on this rundown and its place is all around earned. For a long time, creator Napoleon Hill contemplated the best individuals of his time, including Henry Ford and Alexander Graham Bell, and chronicled those discoveries together into one perfect little bundle.

The principle takeaway? An engaged, deep longing (or the intensity of a made-up mind, what Wayne Dyer called goal), enables us to accomplish or gain what we need most throughout everyday life.

In case you're searching for experiences on the best way to accomplish your fantasy or a particular objective, this is great you can't manage without.

 

6. What to Say When You Talk to Your Self which is written by know Dr. Shad Helmstetter

This book profoundly affected me at a basic point in my life. A great that is not regularly recorded on best self-improvement guide records.

Our inward exchange holds tremendous measures of command over our life, affecting each choice we make every single day. The main issue is, our internal exchange is generally fantastically negative and foolish.

Things being what they are, what happens when you figure out how to ace this inward discourse and change it? Your whole life changes. I credit this book, to a limited extent, for helping me escape a troublesome spot in my life where I was working someplace, I knew didn't line up with my motivation yet didn't have the certainty or conviction to make the following stride.


7. The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Dr. Peale's exemplary is simply the quintessential assistance book, being one of only a bunch of early books from around the 1950s that formed the whole personal growth space all in all. Consequently, there are numerous subjects in the book that you'll see reverberated all through a considerable lot of different books on this rundown. Be that as it may, the point of view is marginally extraordinary and an invigorating change.

The estimation of positive reasoning is such a fundamental mantra of personal development that it's presently nearly ignored. The Power of Positive Thinking is incredible for anybody hoping to get back essentials and get familiar with a portion of the central exercises that are basic to trusting self-assurance and an idealistic mentality.



8. The Magic of Thinking Big written by known David J. Schwartz

The Magic of Thinking Big is a book that I'll generally recall since perusing it was likely the first occasion when I was acquainted with the genuine intensity of the psyche. Like Peale's Positive Thinking, this is another work of art, so the models and discourse that Schwartz utilizes are frequently engaging in themselves.

Regardless of anything else, The Magic of Thinking Big will show you not to bamboozle yourself. Plan for an impressive future, don't settle and watch as a straightforward move in the manner you think truly changes your outcomes.

 

9. Stir the Giant Within by Tony Robbins

Stir the Giant Within is likely Robbin's most notable self-improvement guide and, when you read it, you'll know why. A significant number of books on this rundown focus on a specific subject, yet this one doesn't. It gives you the entire damn thing, to say the least. Robbins offers his best guidance for improving your connections, certainty, funds, and finding your motivation.

Nonetheless, the principle takeaway and the subject that goes through the whole book is that you have an internal certainty, a monster inside, that you can stir by changing how you think in a basic way. What's more, doing so will permit you to make a genuine change in your life–regardless of the sort of progress you need to make occur. On the off chance that that is what you're searching for, plan to be overwhelmed.



10. Brave Greatly by Brené Brown

A significant number of books on this rundown are based on old-school thoughts of procurement and personal development. In case you're somewhat burnt out on all that (I don't accuse you), this will be a much-needed refresher.

The works of art are works of art for an explanation they work. They incorporate priceless astuteness which for anybody attempting to make an incredible dream or objective reality. Be that as it may, the more established works of art will in general disregard something significant: the difficulties we face all through life.

Of all self-improvement type books, analyst and writer Brené Brown's Daring Greatly strikes at the core of the most significant issue of all: our absence of self-esteem and battles with disgrace.



 

Sunday, 21 June 2020

Lessons I Learnt From My Toddler


My toddler is 17 months and 9 days old as of today. His newly discovered skill of walking all by himself is undoubtedly his reason to rejoice. His excitement for life and every object and creature that he sees is noteworthy.

One fine evening when we took him for a walk, he startled us by chasing a stray dog to the extent of scaring it and finally making sure that the dog disappeared. The walk doubled up for us as jogging.

Unaware of the laws of the universe, he doesn't know that he is supposed to be scared of dogs and not be otherwise, and that they may bite or run after him.

The irrationality the kids have at this age drives parents to the brink of sanity, along with their constant fits and tantrums. But at the same time, their simple actions and perceptions make us learn big life lessons like these...


1. Express yourself. Scream when you want, weep if you feel like. Don't hold back your tears. If it does nothing, atleast it is good for your lungs.
2. Sleep when you are tired, and not when you ought to. Sleep as many times a day as you want, and wake up all perked up.
3. Eat if and when you are hungry, and eat only to satiate your hunger and not to empty your plate.
4. Live life in the moment, don't die planning your future.
5. Learn something new each day, and be excited about what you learn. Be curious about your surroundings.
6. Be contended in yourself and love all those you want. You can't make 6 billion people on the earth happy at the same time.  
7. When you don't get what you want, cry for it, fight for it or in the end, leave it.
8. Celebrate yourself, expect others to join in.
9. When you hear no, make it a yes.
10. Don't care about what others think of you. Let yourself be their problem, not yours! Like I say, tension lene ka nahi, dene ka
11. Take risks, be adventurous and never be anxious.
12. Have faith. Faith that everything will be okay, and faith in those who love you.
13. Don't hold grudges, forgive quickly and move on. Negative emotions must be drained. If you don't like something, move. You are not a tree.
14. Given a choice, choose to be happy. Toddlers find happiness in things as simple as a cardboard box, a spoon or a flying paper.
15. Don't complicate life. Accept that you won't get it, unless you ask for it.

Sunday, 14 June 2020

Overloaded Pandemic



"Sharing is caring, sharing is fun. We can all share together..." These are a few lines from one of the nursery rhymes which my toddler keenly watches these days on YouTube. For kids, it simply implies sharing personal belongings or meals. For adults, we can infer sharing work!

In our society, a husband doing household chores means "helping" the wife. On the contrary, wife doing them signifies it as her duty, a thankless job, that came along with the package of the feras of her marriage. A working husband is someone who earns the bread and butter for the family since ages. A working wife, with all certainty is passing her time. We stay in a society where people frown at the mention of a lady not being able to cook, chuckle on hearing if a man does. They generously use the word "lucky wife" on hearing if the husband prepares evening tea for the exhausted wife. In the same society a child is the Raja beta or Papa's Pari, who is allowed to reject home-cooked food, or bargains eating against extra 30 minutes on iPad. The child learns what he/she sees, of course!

Despite of all this, the societal norms are mutating and a faithful balance is being developed slowly but eventually. The newer generations are westernizing and accepting that the burden of household chores are to be bore by the household, and not the house-lady. Exclaiming at a particular gender's participation in the process is subsiding.

Like many, we are navigating uncharted waters: e-learning and working remotely from home; social distancing is taking away everything. Being together is a huge advantage we have as families right now, but we might be too close to it to see it as a gift. It is a real blessing to have each other in this.

In a nuclear family setup like that of ours, taking care of a 1.5 year old child is not a child's play. They say it takes a village to bring up a child. During these social distancing times, our village lies in our household. A growing child needs a lot of attention, and with parents working from home, its a dire challenge. To be able to understand that mother is not just responsible for changing the soiled diapers and handling a crying baby, while the father is sitting on the couch hooked to the TV, waiting to play with the child. In our family, the father is as good as the mother :) We have divided our chores and very well manage them along working from home for our full time jobs. This is how we #ShareTheLoad !


When it comes to daily chores, for which we as urban Indians used to be heavily dependent on maids and cooks, relationships are put to test. My husband chops vegetables and I prepare them. I handle the tantrum throwing toddler, his father cleans the utensils. When I clean the house, he does the laundry. This is what brings harmony in the relationship, and you see your fondness for each other grow on knowing well how your better half understands you, and the family needs. At first, you are awed to see each other doing all that they have never done. Being brought up in a cozy environment, where your parents did all the chores while you sat studying, or pursuing your hobbies, and later depending on maids, all this comes as a shock. Gradually you get used to it, and that's how you grow old together. #ShareChoresMultiplyLove is the mantra.

My husband doing laundry

We never know when these unprecedented times would end. Amidst everything gloomy and the earth still rotating on the axis of Corona, a pinch of affinity in the family is much needed.
Don't forget to watch how Ariel motivates us to  #ShareTheLaundry.


I will #ShareTheLoad and help in household chores in association with Ariel India and BlogAdda

Monday, 4 May 2020

A Pinch of Humour

Meanwhile,  amidst everything serious, and the earth rotating on the axis of Corona, I thought of adding a pinch of humor and wit to our world !

On planet Facebook, some ladies are nonchalantly sharing their "saree clad" pictures. They call it a "challenge".  Really! If that's a challenge, I wonder then how our mothers and grandmothers had been living such challenging lives. They also say, that these pictures are posted to bring smile on their friends' faces in these gloomy times. I awe at how people are doing data entry jobs for free! On a sarcastic note, how do such moronic ideas click to only certain humans. 

Nevertheless, sarcasm is like electricity, half of the country doesn't get it.

Meanwhile, as one of the popular jokes states, people are busy vanishing maida and sooji from the earth, by demonstrating their culinary talent. Opened Whatsapp status this morning to see one of my friends just burped of Biryani, the other posted 5 photos of some ugly looking deep fried snacks and someone just prepared fresh out of oven half baked chocolate cake garnished with Gems.

Looking at the messages on my Whatsapp and Telegram groups, I got a mischievous idea. I clubbed multiple messages together, copied and shuffled them. This created a humorous chain. Read below to gain a smile -

Any good tailor nearby? Hi, we shifted here yesterday, waiting to catch up...

This is ridiculous, some dog pooped in front of the club house?  Please assemble in front of the Club House for flag hoisting.

My son's crocs are missing from the playground. Please suggest some good temples nearby. 

Can someone suggest the nearest gas agency. The flush of my toilet is not working... ?

Someone has parked their car in my parking. Please contact me if someone wants to buy my 2BHK.

The maid Jaymala has not yet arrived. If someone has a spare granite slab, please DM me. 

Please don't feed pigeons in the balcony. The builder has reserved that area for STP.

What are the charges for vegetable chopping every day? It is clearly mentioned in our sale agreement.


I wonder if we are going to emerge alive out of this pandemic. Ever wondered that we never remain satisfied with whatever life gives us. What has come, shall go someday. These times, may be good or bad, your perspective, but shall end someday. And that day, we may miss how staying home was a bliss and not a punishment. Though, a balance is a must, but remember there have been days when we longed for staying back, away from the life's race. 

I read this somewhere, sometime -

वक़्त अच्छा जरुर आता है....
बस कमबख्त वक़्त पर नहीं आता...!!

पल-पल तरसते थे जिस पल के लिए...
वो पल भी आया कुछ पल के लिए...!!





Saturday, 25 April 2020

Your Story...

Each one of us is a walking story. All the stories are entwined with each other. You come across other people's stories for a few chapters. Some rendezvous are brief, some last for chapters. Some chapters are wonderful, some are painful. You will have moments when you just want to turn the pages of certain chapters too fast, and want to read a few of steadily and happily. Some chapters make us cry for weeks, the others fill us with a lifetime of joy. A bad chapter may not be the end of your story. Keep reading!

The beginning of your story is always soothing, carefree! You learn so much about yours and others' stories in the beginning. The words keep pouring in at the beginning of the story. Gradually, you get accustomed to your story. This is how it works. You can't change the end, for it's already engraved in the chapters. You have to soak yourself truly into what you see and feel. Some stories end too soon, whereas some last longer. To make your story famous, you have to read it loud, louder, loudest. Nobody can open a certain page of your life and say they know you. Similarly, you may find someone else's story more interesting and blissful from a distance, you never know what their journey was about!

Moments come and go in the lines of those chapters. Nevertheless, you cannot skip chapters. This is how the circle of life works. You have to read each and every line. You have to meet all the characters. We are villain in someone's story, and angels for the others. Stories keep the earth rotating. Some days there is sunshine, and sometimes just frost spread all over. We have to live it all, for there is no means to jump over to the other chapter. Time goes on at its pace. 


It is you who is living your story. You are the hero in your story, and it is unique in all the ways, just like you. The genre of your story may be humor, adventure, mystery or a history. But it can never be a fiction! Your story can definitely be a legacy for generations to come, if you live it so. You have to leave the traces of your moments to make it an inspiration.

Why not multiply the intensity of happier moments in the pages of your story, and read and re-read it! Heal your bruises and replenish yourself while turning each page of your story.

Thursday, 16 April 2020

कागज़-ए-ख़ाली


मुद्दतों में उठायी कलम हाथों में, 
देख कागज़-ए-ख़ाली हम खो गए,

लफ़्ज़ों के आईने में देख ख़ुदा को,
ख़ुद ही की मौसिकी में मशगूल हो गए,

मन को तराशा बेबाक़ अल्फाज़ो में, 
कांटे भी फूल हो गए,

एक बूंद गिरी स्याही यूँ दवात से,
फिर छिपे सारे राज़ गुफ़्तगू हो गए,

क्यूं ना करें इन पन्नों से बातें,
ये ही है जो रूठा नहीं करते,

स्याही की छाप से जब पन्ना रंग जाता है,
मन से निकला हर लफ़्ज़ कागज़ पर रम जाता है,

बोल उठते हैं शब्द, जब ये कागज़ हवा में फड़फड़ाता है,
इत्मिनान देता है कागज़ का टुकड़ा जब मन भर आता है,

एक कहानी और कहानियों में कई कहानी,
मन की उड़ान की रफ्तार लिख कर है दर्शानी,

दौड़ भाग में रहते व्यस्त करते हर दम काम काज,
छोड़ के ये सब मद मस्त हो जाते हैं आज।

बुनते है आज ग़ज़ल सुहानी या कोई कहानी,
बातें जानी या अनजानी जो है हमें दुनिया को सुनानी।

Sunday, 22 March 2020

फ़ुर्सत



चलिए कागज़ पर कुछ अल्फ़ाज़ लिखते हैं
धरती जो कर रही आराम उस पर साज़ लिखते हैं,
आश्चर्य में पड़ गया विज्ञान,
प्रकृति ने किया वो संग्राम,


आदमी आदमी की मौत का हो रहा कारक है,
घोर कलियुग का ये आग़ाज़ दिखता है,
प्रकृति के प्रक्षालन का ये संयोग सच्चा है,
दूरियां बढ़ने का योग अच्छा है,


देख लो मोबाइल टीवी या अखबार,
प्रवचन का लगा है अम्बार,
हाथ धोएं, किसी को न छुएं, बुखार ना होये,
ख़ुद की बनाई जेल में गुम होये,


जीवन मे नहीं बस सिनेमा, मॉल और पार्टी हॉल,
फुर्सत भरे दिन रात मिलते कहाँ है हाल फिलहाल ,
बच्चों को घर के काम का आनंद सिखलाये,
Playstation और iPad को दूर हटाएं,


क्यूं ना आज अपने शौक फरमाएं,
परिवार में किस्से कहानियों की चौपाल बैठाएं,
अब मौका मिला है तो फायदा उठायें,
कुछ लम्हें अपनों के साथ बिताएं |

Saturday, 21 March 2020

Book Review: The New Rules of Business




Book Name - The New Rules of Business
Author - Rajesh Srivastava
Publication year - 2019
Pages - 326


This book is penned by Rajesh Srivastava who is an IIT and IIM alumnus. The bio of the author is indeed impressive, he has a lot of feathers on his cap. All the knowledge and experience that he has put into the book is amazing. He is an accomplished manager and brand creator.

The book has a very rich content, with each chapter being a different and a new rule of being successful in your business. Each chapter has a guideline presented interestingly, along with real examples and stories. It's not just one story but multiple stories together. Though I am not from a business background, and have received no formal education in business, this book caught my interest. I could think from a consumer perspective and relate to the stories of the businesses. I stand at the other end of the business-consumer flow, but found it all to be captivating. As a customer I never knew how much research and efforts were put in the background to sell a product to me. Moreover, the newer ways of winning customers written in this book are worth knowing and relatable to me now.

The sixteen rules of business are apt and interesting. It helped me dive deeply into what the businesses we admire did to reach where they are. The world is evolving, the customers are changing and hence, to grow a business stale rules may not work. This book gives us a wonderful insight into those rules and ideas.

I am not sure what they teach in MBA programmes worldwide, but definitely can bet that this book sums up such courses practically. This was the first book of its kind that I ever read, but definitely looking forward read more from the author.

I rate this book 4 on 5 and recommend for those who are serious about building and growing their business, and are willing to adapt fresher ways to build it well.


Thanks to Shweta from Glad U Came for sending this book for review. 

(PS: the reviews expressed here are based on my personal reading experience, and do not intend to defame, derate or 
degrade the sale or vice-versa for the book.)

If you are an author and want your book to be reviewed, drop an email at bookreviews@mansiladha.com

Wednesday, 8 January 2020

Book Review: How to Be a Likeable Bigot



Book Name - How to Be a Likeable Bigot
Author - Naomi Datta
Publication year - 2019
Pages - 216
Genre - Sarcasm

The book is a collection of essays on vivid topics like workplace, parenthood, technology etc. The satire and humor in the book is exemplary. The essays are highly relatable, neither too lengthy nor too small. The author presents a very witty and bold outlook to something we are or that we come across on a daily basis. What occurs to almost all of us, and is a part and parcel of our existence, generally goes unnoticed. This has been beautifully thought over and captured by the author. This book brings the extra ordinary out of the ordinary!

It is very evident how the amount of patience and iterations on the content eventually got bundled up in the pages of this book. Naomi seems like well read and well referenced author. Lot of knowledge and exposure can only result in such quality content. At the same time, the reader also has to have knowledge to understand the content.

Unlike usual indian authors, Naomi came up with a distinct thought process. She has used good verbiage and vocabulary. The sketches before every chapter are creative and self sufficient to convey the crux of the what you are about to read.

For someone who cannot focus and read through a thick book containing a single story, this book is a right option with separate essays. Each of them are independent of one another and can be read in any order.

The genre is very much relatable to me, not only because each of the chapters is close to my existence, but also because I too write a lot of satirical blog posts on the contemporary world. I also closely observe the regular phenomena and draw my inferences into such satirical write ups. I was actually reading the lines loudly in my mind, with all the pauses and expressions, which made me enjoy this even more!

The content is crisp. You would never be bored of it. Overall it is a refreshing read.

I rate this book 3.5 on 5. I recommend this for those who appreciate and understand satire. Not everyone enjoys being made fun of. This book is not meant for those who read only fiction or philosophy. Consider this as a series of blog posts compiled carefully and presented in a light hearted way.

Thanks to Blogadda for approaching me to review the book.

(PS: the reviews expressed here are based on my personal reading experience, and do not intend to defame, derate or 
degrade the sale or vice-versa for the book.)

If you are an author and want your book to be reviewed, drop an email at bookreviews@mansiladha.com