Monday, 2 December 2024

Zero Preservative Food Packing for Europe trip as Vegetarian Parent



Travelling to an international destination? Does any or all of the following apply to you? If yes, then you can scroll further and read my post.



1. Are you a Vegetarian (non-vegetarians please scroll to the next point)?
2. Have at least one child in single digit age group.
3. The child (or children) is/ are picky eaters.
4. You are yourself a picky eater.
5. Conscious eater/ weight watcher/ against refined flour and junk food/ prefer almost nothing out of packets.
6. Desi food lover (north and south Indian)
7. Earning in Rupees and doing mental calculation of food prices in Dollars/ Euros/ Francs to Rupees, and finding them too high?
8. Eating out for too many days at a stretch is not your cup of tea?
9. Renting an Air BnB but don’t want to end up eating Khichdi for 2 week long trip?
10. Have “no-compromise policy” in your food choices?
11. You love cooking for your family but don’t want to end up investing too much of time and energy in cooking.
12. You or any of your family member falls physically or mentally sick by eating outside food.
13. Can’t afford to replace your desi masala chai or filter coffee with tea bags or videshi stuff all the time.


Alright, so if you reached till this point, means at least a few of the above hold true for you. Let’s get started then.

We are a family of three- me, my husband Piyush and our 2019 born Boss Baby Divit. We live in Bangalore, India. I and Piyush are working professionals, and our son is a Kindergartner. We love to travel and explore places. 

Amongst our recent trips are France and Switzerland in October 2024 and Singapore in December 2023. There is sporadic availability of Indian or vegetarian food in these places. One can adjust with the vegan choices, bread packets and pizza burgers here. But ours is a no-adjustment policy, and that’s how all of those points above hold true for us.
Necessity is the mother of invention, and so we ideated ways to have fun and eat our choice of food too.

Here's what we did for our trips-

1. Booked Air BnBs/ serviced aparatments at all these places where we stayed. This means having a kitchen to cook.
2. I have a habit of making lists for everything so that I don’t have to bear the cognitive load of small items. Preparing a list of items that will be needed for the stay with a kid and as a family is a must. This post is more about food, so I will skip rest of the items and talk about food.
3. Packing and stuffing those items in your already pack luggage that has 17 such dresses which will come back unused.
4. Cooking breakfast and dinner at Air BnBs.
5. Eating wholesome breakfast, packing a little for the day, keeping a lot of dry snacks in the day bag, and cooking light dinner after coming back is what we did. At times it was just one meal instead of two. We definitely give a try to local cuisines too, because why not!

We tried creating variety in the food we had during these travels, and minimized consuming outside food, still being satisfied with our meals.

We cooked a lot of dry snacks like mathri, laddus etc a few days before our travel. And we did this together as a family, including our 5+ year old. This lets everyone participate in the activity, leads to load sharing and family time as well. Also, my son knows the value of the food items because he gets to know that cooking is not easy. We give him easy tasks in the process, and those that feel like a game, like rolling the laddus, pricking the mathri, arranging them and counting them.

Classification of the packing list -
1. Homemade snacks
2. Raw materials like dal, rice, suji, spices.
3. Acquiring packaging material like zip lock bags,disposable boxes.
4. Veggies which last for a few days and can travel without getting spoiled, like onion, potatoes,garlic etc.
5. Outside snacks like namkeens, sweets, chocolates (as minimum as possible)
6. Utensils which you don’t find in the kitchens of western countries, like small pressure cooker, strainer for tea etc.

All of this doesn’t become overwhelming if you have a list handy and start keeping the non-perishable stuff aside a few days before the travel.

What can you cook at BnBs for breakfast or dinner?
1. Suji upma (with or without vegetables)
2. Vegetable or plain khichdi
3. Poha
4. Dal rice
5. Chhola rice (don’t miss the soaking part)
6. Chana rice (soak at night)
7. Rasam rice
8. Dalia (with or without vegetables)
9. Any sabzi with rice
10. Dry Chana/ chhola for breakfast (use butter, spices, onion, tomatoes)
11. Sevayian upma (vermicelli)
12. Besan chilla
13. Sabzi with dry gravy (will share recipe below)
14. Bread lover? But bread at any supermarket and prepare sandwiches or toast. Or eat with chhole or any sabzi.
15. Carry homemade theplas (I prefer to order from some caterer). Eat with jam/ sauce/ chat masala/ namkeen/ pickle/ sabzi.
16. Suji pizza - our custom recipe - soak suji with curd and salt for 15 minutes, add veggies of choice, pour into a pan, make it thicker than dosa and thinner than dhokla. Roast on both sides, add tilli (sesame seeds) before pouring the batter.
17. Oats - cook the way you like it.
18. Moong badi sabzi with rice or bread.
19. Pulao
20. Samak rice/ samai/ barnyard millet/ mordhan

Raw materials that you will need.
This is an extensive list. Adjust quantity and use the parts of the list as per your choices and requirements-
1. Suji
2. Rice
3. Moong dal
4. Toor dal
5. Butter for cooking (buy them locally if you can)
6. Spices - Salt, Lal mirch (Red chilli), haldi (turmeric) Jeera (cumin seeds), rai/ sarso (mustard seeds), saunf (fennel seeds), black salt, pepper powder, ajwain, chhole masala, garam masala, oregano, chilli flakes - Pack these in small zip lock pouches , label them if needed.
7. Poha
8. Chana
9. Chhole
10. Makhana (munching for kids)
11. Murmura (munching for kids)
12. Vermicelli (for upma)
13. Tea, tea masala (or cloves, ilaichi, pepper etc separate), sugar, ginger
14. Samak rice/ mordhan
15. Roasted peanuts
16. Roasted papad
17. Corn kernels for popcorn - buy the dry corn packet, prepare using ghee and spices in pressure cooker. I avoid the ACT II popcorns.
18. Nuts and dryfruits of choice
19. Roasted Peanuts
20. Daliya
21. Besan for chilla - BnBs have non-stick pan most of the times, you can put up a quick chilla breakfast using this.
22. Dry gravy (recipe to follow) - cashews, melon seeds, ready to eat soup, dry spices, milk powder
23. Oats
24. Moong badi

Two-minute recipes that you will thank me later for -


Advance cooking for munchies which you can pack in your day bag during your travel
1. Roasted cashews and almonds - they are powerhouses of energy! Heat little ghee in a pan, add the nuts, roast slightly, let them be crunchy but don’t let them burn, add black salt or plain salt and black pepper. If you like it spicy, use the spices of your choice.
2. Popcorn - buy corn kernels packet, heat little ghee in kadhai, add haldi, corns, cover 90% of the kadhai with lid, let them pop. Add salt and spices of choice.
3. Roasted makhana - dry roast makhana until its crunchy, set aside, add ghee in pan, bring back the makhanas in the kadhai, add black pepper powder and white salt / black salt.
4. Roasted Murmura - same process as above, add haldi too.

"More than two-minute" recipes-
You can pack any of those "Diwali snacks" (Jar Snacks) that you love to prepare and eat. You can pack these in your day bags in small quantities when you go for sightseeing on your trip. I am listing some of those items which our family is comfortable to cook, and loves to eat-
1. Laddus
2. Mathri
3. Chakli
4. Besan papdi
5. Sev
6. Masala peanuts (Haldiram's style)

Some of our homemade snacks looked like these-



Homemade Premixes -
A. Gravy premix -
Preservative alert -this is an exception and cannot be completely preservative free. You can find the recipe on Youtube/ Instagram too. Here's my way of doing it-
1. Dry Roast some cashews and melon seeds, let them cool down, keep in fridge. Grind them well.
2. Add some garlic powder (available online/ offline.
3. Add some dry ginger powder.
4. Add milk powder for thickness (remember, it generally has some sugar).
5. For red gravy, add the readymade tomato soup mix available online/ offline. For white gravy, skip this.
6. Prepare tadka- heat little oil (ghee will melt in your luggage), add dry spices like cinnamon, bay leaves, cloves, etc (those which you add in your paneer gravy), add some haldi and chilli powder. Mix this in the gravy powder.
7. When you are cooking this, heat water in kadhai, add premix, boil for 2-3 minutes, check consistency and taste. Adjust as needed. (I recommend you try this once before packing and adjust the taste).
8. Add veggies/ potatoes/ chhola/ chana/ paneer or whatever you want.

B. Rasam premix - Lots of Youtube and Instagram videos are available on this one, so I will skip the recipe.

C. Chai premix - This comes as a boon for chai lovers, especially if you are travelling to colder countries. All you need is your premix and some hot water. You can check Youtube or Instagram for recipes and see which one suits your choices. There are also premixes that you shop online.
D. Upma premix - Check Youtube.
E. Khichdi premix (never tried, but available on Youtube).

Fresh veggies to pack
-
1. Pealed peas and carrots (they can survive a flight journey and lie in the refrigerator of the BnB for a few days) - useful for upma, khichdi etc
2. Potatoes, onions- quick sabji, khichdi etc (long shelf life)
3. Ginger - for tea (and any other food item)
4. Garlic - of course, can be used in anything.

Utensils-
1. Pressure cooker - never found it in most of the countries
2. Small tea pan - sometimes you may find it in BnBs, take a bet or check with the BnB owner.
3. Tea strainer
4. Grater for ginger.
5. Carry induction cooktop if you are not staying in BnB or your BnB doesn’t have a cooktop.

Other items (sorry but these are junk)-
1. Tomato ketchup & jam (if they are unavoidable in your daily meals)
2. Maggi (if you can't live without it)
3. Chocolates/ lollipops (to bribe the child, if that's inevitable)
4. Saunf, mouth freshners.
5. Ready to eat items (though I never carry them)

What most BnBs generally have in their kitchenette?
1. Cooktop
2. Non-stick pans, kadhai
3. Rice strainer
4. Spoons, spatulas etc
5. Rice cooker
6. Cutlery and dinnerware
7. Dishwashing materials or Dishwasher machine (better to check in advance)
8. Salt, pepper, oil etc.
9. Chopping board, knives
10. Coffee maker
11. Toaster
12. Washing machine (sometimes lies in the kitchenette itself)!

How to pack all this?
1. Avoid taking too many boxes.
2. Use ziplock bags, a lot of varieties are available online.
3. Make sure to label the spices and all those items which you do not want to get confused with. No one would want their tea to have salt in place of sugar!
4. Keep only those many boxes which you will need for packing during the daytime of your trip. Prefer dishwasher safe boxes or disposables.
5. Check if you will need disposable plates or spoons.
6. Generally, BNBs have tissues and aluminum foils, see if those are still needed.
7. I prefer to pack laddus like Ferrero Roscher, in aluminum foils. This way you can just drop those in your bag, eat and dispose the cover, no issue of ghee melting in your branded bag!
8. Try packing munching in small pouches/ boxes. You can simply refill or carry them on the go.


Phewww.. this was about it. It does look like too much, but trust me, if you have a list, and a little planning, you will have a fit, healthy and light on pocket trip. Make sure to let me know in the comment box on what you think about this. Any suggestions are welcome :) 

Tuesday, 5 November 2024

Our France and Switzerland Itinerary with a Kindergartner

 

We are a family of three- me, my husband Piyush and our 2019 born Boss Baby Divit. We live in Bangalore, India. I and Piyush are working professionals, and our son is a Kindergartner. We love to travel and explore places. 

This year in October 2024 we travelled to our dream destinations- France and Switzerland.

Our Story on how we decided these destinations-

We juggled a lot between places to travel. We are Asians, and have explored a few other Asian International destinations before this. Our son is 5+ years old now, not too young for travel, but not too grown up as well :) We are vegetarians and picky eaters too! You may also want to read another post called Zero Preservative Food Packing for Europe trip as a Vegetarian Parent.

We decided two months before our travel, that we WANT to travel :) This was too less time, of course. Because Europe travel needs a lot of planning.

1. Schengen Visa (will soon post details on Schengen Visa process)

2. Booking flights

3. Booking places to stay

4. Currency & Forex

5. Packing list

6. Luggage & food items to carry

7. Weather friendly attire

8. Electronics and accessories like universal travel adapter, tripod for those lovely pictures, power bank etc.

9. Detailed itinerary

10. Understanding local travel modes, pricing, precautions etc.

In this post I will detail out some of this, primarily focusing on itinerary. Firstly, we are those people who prefer to plan our own travel without any agent, except for visa (if required).

When we decided on Europe, we were unsure of which countries to travel to. We also had to consider that our 5-year-old remains entertained, loves the travel, is fed properly, stays healthy and doesn't get tired or bored.


We decided to land in Paris for a few reasons-

1. Because its PARISSSSS.

2. It has Disneyland.

3. It is one of the cheapest destinations to fly to from India.

From Paris, we travelled to Switzerland by train. Fast forward to our actual journey. Here's our custom itinerary-

 Day 1 - Land in Paris.

We had an overnight journey from Bangalore to Paris via Abu Dhabi. The immigration at Paris took about 2 hours, unexpectedly. That's when I learnt some fun facts about different cultures - children in all cultures can become monstrous any moment, they need gadgets to grow up, they can throw tantrums and be hungry any time. They get bored every 5 minutes, and their luggage is heavier than that of adults. Parents of all cultures control their emotions and final end up shouting at the kids.

So, after all the circus, we reached our BnB, checked-in, ate some food, freshened up (it should have been the other way round), got ready for our adventure of Day 1. We went to the nearest metro station, bought our Navigo passes for local commute. We visited a few friends, and then went for seeing the Eiffel Tower's night lights. The lights are on for 5 minutes every hour, post 7 PM.

And an important tip, you will need much of your Google Translate app in France, if you do not know French, which is the case with most of my readers for sure.

Day 2- Disneyland's Day 1

Commute - We took a train to Disneyland, and reached Disneyland Paris.... oh.. does it sound nice and cool? Well, we took the right train but reached the wrong place, happens with all the tourists at least once during their trip. We wasted an hour figuring out how to reach! 

Tickets -We had booked the tickets about 45 days in advance. People say that booking upto 6 months in advance is advisable to get competitive prices. I looked around on many apps and Disneyland website itself. I found good discounts on Klook. We book "2 days, 2 Parks, Dated tickets" They had options for 1 day, 3 days, 5 days, and multiple customizations. Most Indians visit Disneyland only for a day, which is too less as per our experience. You must visit both the parks and give 1 day to each park unless you have less time overall.

We visited Disneyland Park on day 1 and Walt Disney studios on Day 2. Use the park maps and plan your day, because even the whole day is less for visiting the whole park.

Day 3- Disneyland's Day 2

We visited Walt Disney Studios this day, and had absolute fun.

Day 4 - Paris City

2-3 hours -We strolled around the streets of Montmartre and visited Sacre Coeur. We also bought a ticket to climb up the Sacre Coeur and see the whole Paris city from the top. Climbing was tough for our little one, since the stairs are from the medieval times.

2 hours - Seine River Cruise - I won't call it a must visit, but its good if you wish to see the city by water route. The river isn't clean enough, but the overall experience was fine. Book the tickets in advance or just reach the place and see if online discounts are better than offline prices.

1 hour - Stroll around the Seine River and Eiffel tower area. Walk on the Pont Alexandre bridge and experience French architecture.

2 hours- Palais Garnier - This is a magnificent Palace from hundreds of years ago. We loved visiting this place and knowing about the French history. The locality is also wonderful and picturesque.

Day 5 - Paris City

2-3 hours - I had booked an online ticket with an agent for visiting Eiffel Tower. So we reached our meeting point at 9 AM (best time to have less crowd). We went to the Eiffel tower, 1st floor, 2nd floor and top floor. The host guided us about the history and escorted us (kind of VIP entry because of the booking). The 2nd floor is good for pictures and city view. The top floor has a different vibe! So by now you have seen the city by road, train, water and the height of Eiffel and Sacre Coeur.

2-3 hours - Louvre Museum (Monalisa painting) - The museum is big, consider choosing how much you want to cover.

While walking around this area, we had seen the Arc De Triomphe from outside. We didn't want to go in because of lack of time, and because going up would ask for more energy from our child to climb the stairs. We had anyway seen the city from top of Eiffel tower and other places. 

2-3 hours - Versailles Palace - Another wonderful piece of French architecture. This is a must visit, less crowded but little far from the city. We spent a lot of time confused with modes of transport here.

Day 6- Travel to Switzerland

We booked our train from Paris to Basel on the train called TGV Lyria. We did not have a Eurail pass because we did not need one. So we paid for this ticket online. This was a 4 hour journey, very comfortable. The train had a restaurant on its first floor. On reaching Basel, we activated our Swiss travel pass. We then travelled to Engelberg (our place of stay) via Lucerne on train.

We checked in to our Serviced apartment in Engelberg with lovely views of Mount Titlis. We cooked, ate, relaxed, watched the mountain, and called it a day!

Day 7 - Mount Titlis and Lucerne

Mount Titlis was at walking distance from our apartment. So, after breakfast, we started for the place. We went to the destination, and compared online and offline prices, and booked our tickets online :) This place had snow, we experienced snowfall too. Kajol and Shahrukh's caricature from DDLJ was attracting crowds for pictures. The cable car commute was one of its kind. There are multiple activities to do here. Every moment of the experience was wonderful. We comfortably visited the place but still were back down the mountain by around 2 PM. Then we quickly hopped to our apartment, cooked maggi and tea, and moved to Lucerne.

By 4 PM, we reached Lucerne, visited the old town, Lucerne Lake cruise (must visit), Chapel Bridge, Lion monument and back to Engelberg by 8:00 PM.

Day 8 - Rhine falls and Oberhofen Castle

At an hour's distance from Lucerne by train is Rhine falls. This is a waterfall of the Rhine River which separates Germany and Switzerland. It is the largest waterfall in Switzerland. We spent our whole day here. The stroll, boating, chai samosa at an Indian joint were all so pleasant. On the other side of the falls, is the Oberhofen castle. It was the first fairy tale castle we ever visited, 5 stars to this one. There is an Alpine playground at the end of the castle, our kid loved being there. 

Day 9- Interlaken - Brienz, Harder Kulm, Yash Chopra statue

We checked out from our stay at Engelberg and travelled to Interlaken. We took the Lucerne-Interlaken express, which is a panoramic train. Our Air BNB was located in a peaceful town called Brienz, by the Brienz lake. We made an early check-in around 1 PM, strolled around the village to appreciate the beautiful village. And took the next bus plus train to Interlaken. We visited Harder Kulm. It is a mountain in Interlaken, you reach here by a Funicular (our first experience). On top are the beautiful views of the mountains and lakes. The reason why it is famous, is you get the views of Brienz lake and Thun lake on each side of the viewpoint. "Inter-laken" is named so because it lies between these two lakes. There is another Alpine playground and a cafe to eat.

On coming down the mountain, we strolled around Interlaken and visited the Yash Chopra Statue, had dinner at an Indian restaurant and back to Brienz.

Day 10 - Lauterbrunnen, Murren, Wengen

Lauterbrunnen is one of the most dreamy villages in the world. It is the house of numerous waterfalls. We travelled from Brienz to Interlaken to Lauterbrunnen by train and bus. All of this had amazing scenic views all over. Half of the day was rainy, so we decided to visit sheltered area first. So we went to Trummelbach falls first and then Staubbach falls. We strolled around the beautiful Lauterbrunnen and savored some delicious local pizza and coffee. After this we took trains and cable cars to Murren and Wengen villages - again breathtakingly beautiful!

Day 11 - Grindelwald, Grindelwald First

Grindelwald is another fascinating beautiful village for a leisurely stroll. Next to it is Grindelwald First where you reach by cable car. You can enjoy First Cliff walk, hiking, ziplining, trottibike. You can even plan a hike to Bachalpsee Lake. It also has alpine playgrounds for children. You can sip your coffee and grab a bite of pizza at the cafe up the mountain, while enjoying the views of the wonderful Jungfrau region. Grindelwald First is for adventure and non-adventure lovers both. If you are a K-drama lover, Crash Landing on You, was shot here, they also have a photo prop here.

Day 12 - Jungfraujoh - Top of Europe & Thun Lake Cruise

This is yet another amazing day trip, and is one of the most popular mountains in Jungfrau region. A lot of Bollywood movies, K-drama and many others have been shot here. This was the most expensive day trip in Switzerland for us, but it was worth it. Just that, you need to keep checking the weather app and webcam (link available online), a night before and see what kind of forecast there for this mountain is. You can plan accordingly, whether you book online or offline, check weather first. Now this place is also accessible by a large cable car, people were seen hiking too, but I would leave that for my 10th Switzerland trip! They have many attractions within the mountain, even a train track on top of the mountain which takes you finally on the mountain. You can alternatively go to other mountains like Schilthorn, Schynige Platte, Kleine Scheidegg, Mannlichen etc.

(Picture taken from web)

The temperature on the mountain was too cold for us, we even experienced snowfall. We finally got to see much needed sunlight and warmth on travelling back to Interlaken, grabbing a cup of coffee by the lake and experienced Lake Cruise on the beautiful Lake Thun. This was unplanned, but we really love such unplanned add-ons to our itinerary. 

Day 13- Zurich - Lindt Home of Chocolates and Lake Zurich

We checked out of our Air BnB and took a train to Zurich which was our last destination of the best trip ever. After an early check-in to our hotel, near the airport, we went to visit Lindt Home of Chocolates. We had booked the slots online in Bangalore itself. This was 2 weeks before our trip. It is advisable to book tickets well in advance. It took some time for us to understand the means of transport, and fast paced movements in the largest city of Switzerland. The tram rides were a distinct experience, and made us nervous for a while :)  We made it to our destination in time, and were in a wonderful world of chocolates, you can enter the building and buy chocolates, visit their cafe with exquisite chocolate menu until your slot begins. Their scanners won't scan your ticket and open the doors until your slot has started, not even a minute before. So we entered the museum at 3:30 PM, and I must say its a must must visit. I can write an entirely different blog post to tell how me, my husband and our kid enjoyed being there.

It had been evening time till we left from there, and we had just that day to visit whatever we could. We decided to relax on the shores of Lake Zurich. It was calm and soothing, and seeing the falls colors, taking pictures on the lakeside was an experience in itself. 


Day 14- Checkout and travel to Bangalore

We checked out, took a tram ride to the airport, left for Bangalore with colourful memories of the first ever Europe trip.

Tips from actual experience:

1. Travel Insurance - While booking tickets, make sure to take travel insurance. This will be needed for visa, and of course, you think you will not need to use the insurance, but god forbid, if you need any medical assistance in a foreign land, it will dig a hole in your pocket. Ensure to add your Date of Birth, name and all other details correctly in the insurance document. It can be bought by the same app where you book your tickets from. All of the insurance are as good and as bad as they can be!

2. Excursion tickets -  If you are sure you want to visit a certain place, book the tickets in advance. Europe has unpredictable weather, be prepared for that. If there is an option of refundable tickets, consider availing it. 

3. Carry oregano and chilli flakes if you are planning to try local cuisines like Pizzas. Their food is bland for Indians.

4. Booking a place to stay- Use Google maps to see how much you need to walk from metro station or any other public transport. Of course, cabs are available, but most of the tourists prefer using public transport in Europe for cost saving and experiencing the beautiful landscape.

5. Invest in very comfortable shoes, because you need to walk a lot when in Europe. If you are travelling with a kid, prepare them in advance for walking. I used to make my son walk at least 10000 steps each day for more than a month before our travel, lured him with lollipops for the same. Europe is not pram-friendly in general, you will end up carrying the pram on cobbled stone streets or in the trains.

6. Install the local weather apps. We were amazed to see that in Europe the rains and sun are so punctual, that they follow whatever timings are shown in the weather apps! Check the weather app a night before and plan the next day accordingly. Some of the mountains in Switzerland also have webcams installed, you can search for them online, and see whether the views are clear or visiting on another day is better.

7. Use free restrooms at the restaurants where you eat, or in the trains (wherever available). Paying 1 Euro for using a public toilet in France, and 1.5 Francs in Switzerland is painful.

8. Staying in Air BNB or serviced apartments saves some money on food, because you can cook one or two meals for yourself.

Sunday, 16 July 2023

जड़



कुछ समय पहले मैंने एक कहानी सुनी थी। आज उसे अपने शब्दों में लिख रही हूं।

एक गांव में एक पिता अपने बेटे और बहु के साथ रिटायरमेंट के बाद खुशहाल जीवन व्यतित कर रहे थे। बेटा और बहू उनका खूब सम्मान करते। कुछ माह में उनके दादा बनने का संयोग था। वे अपनी गर्भवती बहु की सेहत और आराम का पूर्ण ध्यान रखते थे।

एक बार पिताजी शाम को मित्रों के साथ टहल कर घर आये। उनका बेटा आफिस से लौटने के पश्चात हाथ मुँह धो कर बैठा था। बहु ने गरमा गरम चाय का कप देते हुए पिताजी से पूछा कि भोजन में क्या लेंगे। पिताजी ने कहा "बहु कुछ देर बैठो भोजन की क्या जल्दी है! " भावी माता पिता से पूछा कि तुम अपनी आने वाली संतान का किस प्रकार पालन करोगे। बहु ने कहा - "पिताजी हम उसे बहुत लाड़ प्यार से पालेंगे, सदा उसका ख्याल रखेंगे।" बेटे ने कहा -" हाँ हाँ पिताजी हम उसे किसी चीज़ की कमी नहीं होने देंगे। उसे जीवन का हर सुख देंगे। नाज़ों से पालेंगे।" पिता के चहरे पर मुस्कान आ गयी किन्तु वे मौन रहे। बहु बेटा आश्चर्य में थे लेकिन कुछ बोले नहीं।

अगले दिन पिताजी दो पौधे घर ले आये। बहु बेटे को बुला कर कहा, "ये लो तुम्हारे लिये मेरी ओर से तोहफ़ा, एक पौधा मैं रखूंगा एक तुम रखो। इसे बगीचे में लगा दो।" दोनों सोच में पड़ गए कि पिताजी की इसके पीछे क्या मंशा है, अपना पौधा लिया और उसे बगीचे में लगा दिया।

वे दोनों अपने पौधे का बहुत ध्यान रखते, रोज़ पानी देते, खाद डालते, उसे सूखने ना देते, उसके बड़े होने पर खुशी मनाते और अपनी इस सफ़लता पर गर्व करते। वहीं पिताजी का पौधा रूखा सूखा रहता, वे उसे काफ़ी दिनों तक पानी भी नहीं देते। दोनों को बड़ा आश्चर्य होता।

एक रात बहुत वर्षा हुई और तूफान आया। उनका पौधा जड़ से निकल कर अलग हो गया था और टूट कर एक कोने में पड़ा था। अगले दिन उन्होंने जब ये देखा तो बड़े दुखी हुए। सोचा कि हमने इसकी देखभाल में ऐसी क्या कमी रखी जो इसके ये हाल हुए। वहीं पिताजी का पौधा टस से मस न हुआ। उन्होंने पिताजी से इसका कारण पूछा।

पिताजी ने बड़ा सुंदर जवाब दिया - "मैंने अपने पौधे को स्वावलंबी बनाया। मैं उसे कम पानी देता था और सीमित देखभाल करता था। इससे उसने अपनी जड़ों को अंदर तक बढ़ा लिया और ज़मीन द्वारा ही पानी लेता था। इससे आज वह स्वस्थ और स्थिर है। तुमने अपने पौधे के संरक्षण में इतने प्रयत्न किए की उसे कमज़ोर बना दिया। तुमने अनजाने में उसे ख़ुद पर निर्भर कर दिया और वो ज़रा भी तकलीफ़ ना सह सका। उसी प्रकार संतान को भी हम प्रेमवश मानसिक, आर्थिक और शारीरिक रूप से कमज़ोर बना देते हैं। हम उसे सारे सुख देने की इच्छा से और जीवन मे सब आराम देने के लोभ में दुर्बल कर देते हैं। हम अगर उसके साथ कठोर नहीं होंगे तो भविष्य में यह उसके लिए हानिकारक होता है। अब शायद तुम समझ गये होंगे मेरा पूर्ण उद्देश्य। "






Friday, 31 March 2023

हर घर शबरी







सुबह उठी, बेटे के स्कूल का लंच बॉक्स बनाया,
सोच चख लूं, मिर्च ज़्यादा हुई तो भूखा लौट आएगा,

पति जॉगिंग कर के घर आये, संतरे का जूस बनाया,
सोचा चख लूं, कहीं खट्टा तो नहीं बना ,

दोपहर का भोजन बनाया, लगा दाल में नमक कम हो गया होगा,
सोचा चख लूं, कहीं सबको पसन्द ना आई तो,

बेटा स्कूल से वापिस आया, पकौड़े की फरमाइश करी,
बनाते हुए सोचा चख लूँ, ठीक से पका या नहीं,

शाम की चाय का समय हुआ, किसी को अदरक चाहिए किसी को शक्कर कम,
सबकी चाय थोड़ी थोड़ी चख लेती हूं, कहीं उनके मुँह का स्वाद ना बिगड़ जाए,

रात का भोजन जब बना, साथ मे सलाद भी काटा,
सोचा चख लेती हूं, कहीं फिर से कड़वा खीरा तो नहीं खरीद लायी,

सुबह बनी हुई खीर पति ने बड़े शौक से खाई, शाम को भी खाने वाले होंगे,
सोचा चख लेती हूं, कहीं गर्मियों की वजह से खराब ना हो गयी हो।

दोपहर में दही जमाने के लिए रखा था, कल सबको लस्सी पीनी है,
सोचा चख लेती हूं, कहीं खट्टा तो नहीं हो गया,


हमारे भारतीय परिवारों में हर घर में माँ, पत्नी, बहु शबरी ही तो है। जो घर के सदस्यों के भोजन को पहले बेर की तरह चख लेती है। इससे वह आश्वस्त हो जाती है कि उसका परिवार सुरक्षित, स्वस्थ और भोजन से प्रसन्न है। और यही विश्वास परिवार जनों को अपनी शबरी पर है।

यह कविता उन समस्त शबरी रूपी महिलाओं को समर्पित।

Tuesday, 8 November 2022

Fairy Tale Blues




I wanted to be a poet,
To be able to create my own rhymes,
And perhaps write infinitely by the river side,
Alas, I am so decked up and can never find time,

I wanted to be a chef,
And perhaps be the queen of fine dine,
A mistress of spices, and a fierce baker,
Alas, the knives and tongs don't want to be mine,

I wished I could travel to a distant land,
And magically be back in a pinch,
A genie vase in my hand and wishes fulfilled at my finger tips,
Alas, here I am, captivated in the little room,

I wanted to own a kingdom,
Glass heels and velvety pillows for leisure, 
Pearls and pleasures at my disposal,
But my castle is empty and my crown falls each time,

I wished to be a soldier,
Slaying the evils who betray the mankind,
Chasing the knights on horses and march in pride,
But look at me, I am imprisoned in the shackles of the little mine,

I wanted to be on forest excursions,
Sleep under the starry skies and savour the sunshine gleam,
Amidst the enchanting rivers and dense flaura,
Alas, there are no blooms to lift the gloom,


In this tiny world,
I could do anything but not everything,
I could be anywhere but not everywhere!




Tuesday, 2 August 2022

विचार मंथन





प्रतिदिन के इस स्पंदन में,
अनन्त चलते विचार मंथन में,
संयोंग ये रहता हर मन में,
अथक चलती है विचार धारा,
हर मन असन्तोष का मारा,


क्यों नहीं मिला मुझे जो उसने पाया,
खत्म कहाँ होती हर मन की माया,
श्रृंखला है अद्भुत अनंत सुख प्राप्ति की,
कैसे वर्णन हो क्या है सुख की परिभाषा,

बस ये मिल जाये और हम ख़ुश हो जाएं,
बस वो मिल जाये फिर हम तृप्ति पाएं,
परिश्रम किया, पूजन किया और सुख मिल ही गया,
किन्तु श्रंखला में जुड़ गई बेहतर सुख की आशा,
ऐसा है मानव जीवन का तमाशा,

कैसे समझाएं इस चंचल मन को,
कितना संवारें विचारों के घर्षण को,
पार कैसे कर पाएं इस गुरुत्वाकर्षण को,
गुत्थी सुलझाएं कहो कैसे अब हमको,

सहज साधारण है इसका समाधान,
हँस के जीने का है प्रावधन,
नियति, प्रकृति और परिश्रम पर कर विश्वास,
खुशियों का करो आभास।

Friday, 6 May 2022

माँ, कब तक सबके लिए जिया करोगी



कब तक सबके लिए जिया करोगी,
ज़िन्दगी अपने हिस्से की कब चखोगी,

बच गया तो खा लिया वरना ख़ुद के लिए सलाद कौन काटेगा,
सेहत तुम्हारी भी है ज़रूरी, ये कोई न तुम्हें समझायेगा,

याद रखती हो हमेशा, की कोई पकौड़े नहीं खाता, कोई सेब से मुंह चुराता,
फिर कैसे भूल जाती हो ख़ुद अपनी पसंद नापसन्द,

काटो तरबूज़, डालो अंगूर,
अपनी भी थाली सजाना ज़रूर,

परोसती हो बड़े उत्साह से सबको भोजन,
ख़ुद की भी लगाओ एक प्यार वाली थाली,

सबकी सेहत का रखती हो ध्यान,
क्या आज भी ना रखा ख़ुद की दवाई का मान,

कोई नहीं है आज चाय पीने वाला,
ये सोच कर न लगाना ख़ुद की चाह पर ताला,

सुबह सबसे पहले और रात को आखरी तक काम में मगन,
कभी तुम भी sunday को पढ़ो अखबार करो आराम,

दौड़ते भागते ठहरा करो, कभी चैन से बैठा करो,
ख़ुद को सवारा करो, आईने में ख़ुद को निहारा करो,


कब तक सबके लिए जिया करोगी,
ज़िन्दगी अपने हिस्से की कब चखोगी।

Thursday, 3 March 2022

मैं ही तो हूँ



तुम्हारे जीवन का आधार हूँ मैं,
कभी बेटी तो कभी माँ हूँ मैं,

मुझसे ही तुम्हारी भक्ति पूरी है,
भूलना नहीं शिव की शक्ति हूं मैं,

कृष्ण की बांसुरी पर नृत्य करती गोपी हूँ मैं,
क्रोधित हो कर महिषासुर मर्दिनी भी बनी हूँ मैं,

अहिल्या बन हुई पत्थर, द्रौपदी बन लगी दाव पर,
सीता बन समायी भूमि में, स्वर्ण सी निखरी हर अग्निपरीक्षा में,

गुड्डे गुड़ियों के खेल रचाती तुम्हारे आंगन में,
मुझसे ही तुम्हारा कन्यादान का पुण्य सम्पूर्ण है,

सुनी है मुझ बिन कलाई तुम्हारी,
रक्षा करने का वचन मुझ बिन अधूरा है,

नवजीवन की नन्ही कोपल को सवारती अपने अंदर मैं,
मेरे उस असहनीय दर्द के बिना तुम्हारी पहली मुस्कान अधूरी है,

खरोच लगी जब घुटनों को तुम्हारे,
एक आंसू मेरी पलकों के कोने से भी उतरा है,

काले मोती पहने गले में तुम्हारे लिए,
मेरे सिंदूर ने लगाया तुम्हारी आयु पर पहरा है,

अन्नपूर्णा रूप में बहाती पसीना रसोई में,
तब जा कर भोजन का चटकारा तुमनें लिया है,

दुःख के हर आँसू में तुम्हारे,
कतरा खून का मेरा भी बहा है,

बिना मेरे तुम्हारा मकान कभी घर ना बन पाता,
जिसे जन्नत कह कर विश्राम तुमने किया है,

निश्छल निर्मल निरन्तर बहती मैं जीवन की धारा में,
निर्भीक हो कर विभिन्न रूपों में रहती इस धरा में।

Wednesday, 2 February 2022

सर्दियों का भोजन - परम् सुख




सर्दियों के मौसम में खाने का आनंद कुछ ऐसा है...

उस पीली मक्के की रोटी से जब सरसों के साग को उठाते हैं, क्या गज़ब कलर कॉम्बिनेशन नज़र आता है,

गर्मा गरम गोभी के पराठों पर तैरता हुआ मक्ख़न मन को जो लुभाता है, स्वाद की इन्द्रियों को वो जगाता है,

अदरक वाली चाय में जब काली मिर्च पड़ जाती है, बिस्कुट भी बड़े प्रेम से उसमे डुबकी लगता है,


हरे चने की कचोरी पर जब पढती है खट्टी मीठी इमली और ताज़े धनिया की तीख़ी चटनी, परम् सुख वो कहलाता है,


गर्म जलेबी से तरती हुई चाशनी, उसके केसरिया रंग को निखरती है और हमारी आँखे उसे निहारती है,


आलू बड़े में से जब नाज़ुक से मटर छुप कर हमें देखते हैं, लगता है मानो हमें पुकार रहे हो,


गाजर का हलवा भी कहाँ पीछे रह पाता है, दूध मलाई , मेवे में सिकाई और वो सौंधी सी खुशबू जीवन का सार बताता है,


तिल तिल कर बढ़ते ठंड के दिनों में तिल गुड़ की मिठास मुँह में घुल कर स्वास्थ्य बढ़ा जाती है,


केसर बादाम का दूध जब एक ग्लास से दूसरे ग्लास में और फिर पहले ग्लास में मिलाया जाता है, मन कहता है उसकी नज़र उतारी जाना तो बनता है,


गर्मा गर्म कुरमुरे मसालेदार गराडू जब प्लेट मे इठलाते है, हमारे मन को मंत्र मुग्ध कर जाते है,


सर्दियों मे खाने के जो आनंद आते है उसका कोई तोड़ नहीं, जीवन के परम सुखों मे सर्वप्रथम है यही।

Sunday, 14 November 2021

बचपन




याद आता है बचपन का वो फ़साना

ना रोने का कारण ना हंसने का बहाना,


कागज़ की नाव बना कर बारिश में नहाना,

ठंड में ढूंढना स्कूल ना जाने का बहाना,


भाई बहन के झगड़े में रिमोट का टूट जाना,

"super mario" को टीवी में कुदाना,


दीवाली के पटाखे बीस दिन पहले से जलना,

होली पर पानी की पिचकारी में भी आनंद था सुहाना,


ना सुबह की खबर, ना शाम का ठिकाना,

थक कर स्कूल से आना, फिर भी बाहर खेलने जाना,


ना youtube की swiping ना PS 4 के बटन दबाना,

चित्रहार, महाभारत, तरंग के इंतज़ार में चहकना,


छोटी सी साईकल पर फेरी लगाना,

गुड्डे गुड़िया और गिल्ली डंडे का खेल लगता सुहाना,


नया पेंसिल बॉक्स आने पर चार दिन खुशियां मनाना,

स्कूल में बर्थडे पर क्लास में टॉफ़ी बांटना,

Wednesday, 2 June 2021

एक प्याली चाय






ज़िन्दगी भी चाय की ही तरह है,
घूंट घूंट कर इसे पी लीजिए,

शक्कर की मिठास का लुत्फ़ उठाना है,
तो दूध सा निर्मल हो लीजिए,

इलाइची का सुकून, अदरक का तीखापन मिलता है इसमें,
ऐसे ही सुख दुख की कुल्हड़ छलकाते रहिये,

मिलने दीजिये कड़क चायपत्ती भी,
धैर्य रखें, फिर रंग और स्वाद का कमाल देखिये,

तपिश आएगी जाएगी समय समय पर,
उबाल आने तक इंतज़ार कर लीजिए,

छन छन कर मुश्किलें थम जाएंगी,
फिर प्याला भर आनंद ले लीजिए,

सोच विचार चिन्ता फिकर में क्यों बिताएं पल,
सामने रखी चाय ना ठंडी होने दीजिए,

कप, प्याली, कुल्हड़ या गिलास चाहे जिसमें पी लीजिये,
जीने का तरीका अपना अनोखा चुन लीजिए,

बिस्कुट और पकोड़े साथ हो ना हो,
ये अकेली भी कहाँ बुरी है पी लीजिए,

अपनों संग ठहाके लगाएं, सुख दुख बांट लीजिए,
चाय की चुस्कियों संग रिश्तों की बहार सजा लीजिए।

Thursday, 18 March 2021

माँ का जन्म




जब एक बच्चा जन्म लेता है,
तब माँ का भी जन्म होता है,

कैसे उसे सुलायें,
कैसे नहलाएं,
पेट भरा या नहीं कैसे जान पाएं,
भूखा तो नहीं कैसे बतलायें,

इतना क्यों रोता है,
ठीक से क्या वो सोता है,
कितनी डरी सहमी वो रहती है,
आख़िर माँ भी तो अभी जन्मी होती है,

इंजीनियर डॉक्टर बनने में सालों लग जाते हैं,
कोचिंग और इंटर्नशिप भी करवाते हैं,
माँ को तो सीधा परीक्षा में ही बैठते हैं,
योग्यता और तैयारी के प्रश्न कहां आते हैं,

पूरा जीवन वो मातृत्व सीखने में लग जाती है,
लेकिन हर पल नवजात सी वो घबराती है,
सवालों के जवाब आजीवन देती जाती है,
कटघरे में खड़ा ख़ुद को पाती है,

बच्चा क्यों दुबला है, क्या ठीक से नहीं खिलाती हो,
परीक्षा में कम अंक आये, क्या उसे नहीं पढ़ाती हो,
इतनी व्यस्त रहती हो क्या बच्चे पर ध्यान दे पाती हो,
तुमने उसे बिगड़ा है, क्यों नहीं आंख दिखाती हो,

अपने परों को समेट कर उसने आँचल बनाया है,
माँ ने ख़ुद को भुला कर उसे अपनी पहचान बनाया है,
अपने मन की तरंग को विराम उसने लगाया है,
तब जा कर उसने माँ के रूप में जन्म को सार्थक बनाया है।

Monday, 8 March 2021

Being Me


Being the flawless mother,
And a sublime partner,

A cook, advisor, and a teaser,
Crazy and hazy nagger,

From the weekend laundry,
And the weekday crockery,

The stack of grocery,
And the shack of cutlery,

The ardent worker,
And the workforce docker,

Ready to take all the failure,
But I am not a loser,

I know it's a phase,
But life's become a race,

I know I have to be skeptical,
And be adaptable,

I adore this with ultimate vanity,
Because this is life's beauty.

I can't be none of thee,
So I adore being me!

Wednesday, 2 September 2020

निराला



उसके चंचल चेतन में, छोटे से मन के उपवन में,
अनेक सवाल उठते होंगे, अद्भुत खयाल आते होंगे,

ना जाने क्या सोचता होगा, क्या उसको समझता होगा,
विचित्र दुनिया का हर कोण होगा, विचार वृद्धि का वेग होगा,

पेड़ पौधे उपवन आंगन पहेलियों की कड़ियाँ,
सड़क पर दौड़ती गाड़ियां, पशु पक्षी की किलकारियां, अचरज की होंगी झड़ियाँ,

भाषा और शब्दों की श्रृंखला में टटोलता होगा,
वो कभी अपरिचित अनोखी कहानियां,

क्रोध क्लेश का भावावेश, 
क्या समझे वो करना द्वेष,

ना हंसी ठिठोली करना आये, उसको ना आये परिहास,
कपट विषाद निरीह निराला ना जाने वो त्रास,

किसका धन और कैसी माया,
रिश्तों का बंधन है किसने बतलाया,

ना देव दानव को वो पहचाने, ना कीर्तन भजन जाने
वो बैरागी,
सरल चित्त से करता विश्वास, विशुद्ध उसका मन अनुरागी,

पूजा अरज से ना साधे काज वो निस्वार्थ,
प्रतिफल और प्रतिकार है विचार निरर्थ,

सदैव रहता है निश्छल निर्मल नदी सा वह 
उत्साहित ,
असीम हो कर छलकती उत्सुकता की गागर,

क्या अपना क्या पराया कैसे रक्त का कौन है जाया,
जिसमे उसने प्रीति देखी मनोवेग ले वो मुस्काया |




Sunday, 5 July 2020

Too Blessed to Be Perplexed




Life is too short and too magical to be unhappy. Whether you are a stay at home mom, an office going mom, or stepping into both their shoes while working from home.

Being a stay at home mother, during my maternity leave days was hard, gave me constant learning about how the joys and challenges of motherhood go hand in hand. I used to long to return to work, get some me-time en route, listen to cool music and later enjoy an uninterrupted cup of coffee. At the same time, upon returning to work, those days which demanded more work and had tough deadlines, I was determined to escape and nurse my child, mechanically living the hush hush routine. Now, trying to work from home during these pandemic times is, indeed, harder. My head spins and I feel like loosing my sanity. Working in 25-minute shifts leaves you with a jittery feeling and a gives sense that you are failing both. It fills you with guilt to the brim, the guilt of not attending to either of them enough, and the guilt of entirely forgetting yourself. At the same time, it fills you with joy to be able to see your child growing in front of you and not missing on his activities, to be able to feed him by yourself and him not being stuffed by any of his daycare center's caregivers. Also, no worry to rush home from work is a bliss.

Now that I have done all the three, I know each of these has its own challenges and delights.

This juggling goes on in a parent's life and leaves you puzzled. Nevertheless, every phase of your child's growth makes you feel that he is as dependent on you as much as he is free. Just as every child is different, every mother also is. No one can teach you how to mother your child, you learn from experiences, and your motherhood, rather, your parenthood grows along with the child. Nothing persists, whatever you are doing and however you are doing, be proud of yourself.

Sunday, 21 June 2020

Lessons I Learnt From My Toddler


My toddler is 17 months and 9 days old as of today. His newly discovered skill of walking all by himself is undoubtedly his reason to rejoice. His excitement for life and every object and creature that he sees is noteworthy.

One fine evening when we took him for a walk, he startled us by chasing a stray dog to the extent of scaring it and finally making sure that the dog disappeared. The walk doubled up for us as jogging.

Unaware of the laws of the universe, he doesn't know that he is supposed to be scared of dogs and not be otherwise, and that they may bite or run after him.

The irrationality the kids have at this age drives parents to the brink of sanity, along with their constant fits and tantrums. But at the same time, their simple actions and perceptions make us learn big life lessons like these...


1. Express yourself. Scream when you want, weep if you feel like. Don't hold back your tears. If it does nothing, atleast it is good for your lungs.
2. Sleep when you are tired, and not when you ought to. Sleep as many times a day as you want, and wake up all perked up.
3. Eat if and when you are hungry, and eat only to satiate your hunger and not to empty your plate.
4. Live life in the moment, don't die planning your future.
5. Learn something new each day, and be excited about what you learn. Be curious about your surroundings.
6. Be contended in yourself and love all those you want. You can't make 6 billion people on the earth happy at the same time.  
7. When you don't get what you want, cry for it, fight for it or in the end, leave it.
8. Celebrate yourself, expect others to join in.
9. When you hear no, make it a yes.
10. Don't care about what others think of you. Let yourself be their problem, not yours! Like I say, tension lene ka nahi, dene ka
11. Take risks, be adventurous and never be anxious.
12. Have faith. Faith that everything will be okay, and faith in those who love you.
13. Don't hold grudges, forgive quickly and move on. Negative emotions must be drained. If you don't like something, move. You are not a tree.
14. Given a choice, choose to be happy. Toddlers find happiness in things as simple as a cardboard box, a spoon or a flying paper.
15. Don't complicate life. Accept that you won't get it, unless you ask for it.

Sunday, 14 June 2020

Overloaded Pandemic



"Sharing is caring, sharing is fun. We can all share together..." These are a few lines from one of the nursery rhymes which my toddler keenly watches these days on YouTube. For kids, it simply implies sharing personal belongings or meals. For adults, we can infer sharing work!

In our society, a husband doing household chores means "helping" the wife. On the contrary, wife doing them signifies it as her duty, a thankless job, that came along with the package of the feras of her marriage. A working husband is someone who earns the bread and butter for the family since ages. A working wife, with all certainty is passing her time. We stay in a society where people frown at the mention of a lady not being able to cook, chuckle on hearing if a man does. They generously use the word "lucky wife" on hearing if the husband prepares evening tea for the exhausted wife. In the same society a child is the Raja beta or Papa's Pari, who is allowed to reject home-cooked food, or bargains eating against extra 30 minutes on iPad. The child learns what he/she sees, of course!

Despite of all this, the societal norms are mutating and a faithful balance is being developed slowly but eventually. The newer generations are westernizing and accepting that the burden of household chores are to be bore by the household, and not the house-lady. Exclaiming at a particular gender's participation in the process is subsiding.

Like many, we are navigating uncharted waters: e-learning and working remotely from home; social distancing is taking away everything. Being together is a huge advantage we have as families right now, but we might be too close to it to see it as a gift. It is a real blessing to have each other in this.

In a nuclear family setup like that of ours, taking care of a 1.5 year old child is not a child's play. They say it takes a village to bring up a child. During these social distancing times, our village lies in our household. A growing child needs a lot of attention, and with parents working from home, its a dire challenge. To be able to understand that mother is not just responsible for changing the soiled diapers and handling a crying baby, while the father is sitting on the couch hooked to the TV, waiting to play with the child. In our family, the father is as good as the mother :) We have divided our chores and very well manage them along working from home for our full time jobs. This is how we #ShareTheLoad !


When it comes to daily chores, for which we as urban Indians used to be heavily dependent on maids and cooks, relationships are put to test. My husband chops vegetables and I prepare them. I handle the tantrum throwing toddler, his father cleans the utensils. When I clean the house, he does the laundry. This is what brings harmony in the relationship, and you see your fondness for each other grow on knowing well how your better half understands you, and the family needs. At first, you are awed to see each other doing all that they have never done. Being brought up in a cozy environment, where your parents did all the chores while you sat studying, or pursuing your hobbies, and later depending on maids, all this comes as a shock. Gradually you get used to it, and that's how you grow old together. #ShareChoresMultiplyLove is the mantra.

My husband doing laundry

We never know when these unprecedented times would end. Amidst everything gloomy and the earth still rotating on the axis of Corona, a pinch of affinity in the family is much needed.
Don't forget to watch how Ariel motivates us to  #ShareTheLaundry.


I will #ShareTheLoad and help in household chores in association with Ariel India and BlogAdda

Monday, 4 May 2020

A Pinch of Humour

Meanwhile,  amidst everything serious, and the earth rotating on the axis of Corona, I thought of adding a pinch of humor and wit to our world !

On planet Facebook, some ladies are nonchalantly sharing their "saree clad" pictures. They call it a "challenge".  Really! If that's a challenge, I wonder then how our mothers and grandmothers had been living such challenging lives. They also say, that these pictures are posted to bring smile on their friends' faces in these gloomy times. I awe at how people are doing data entry jobs for free! On a sarcastic note, how do such moronic ideas click to only certain humans. 

Nevertheless, sarcasm is like electricity, half of the country doesn't get it.

Meanwhile, as one of the popular jokes states, people are busy vanishing maida and sooji from the earth, by demonstrating their culinary talent. Opened Whatsapp status this morning to see one of my friends just burped of Biryani, the other posted 5 photos of some ugly looking deep fried snacks and someone just prepared fresh out of oven half baked chocolate cake garnished with Gems.

Looking at the messages on my Whatsapp and Telegram groups, I got a mischievous idea. I clubbed multiple messages together, copied and shuffled them. This created a humorous chain. Read below to gain a smile -

Any good tailor nearby? Hi, we shifted here yesterday, waiting to catch up...

This is ridiculous, some dog pooped in front of the club house?  Please assemble in front of the Club House for flag hoisting.

My son's crocs are missing from the playground. Please suggest some good temples nearby. 

Can someone suggest the nearest gas agency. The flush of my toilet is not working... ?

Someone has parked their car in my parking. Please contact me if someone wants to buy my 2BHK.

The maid Jaymala has not yet arrived. If someone has a spare granite slab, please DM me. 

Please don't feed pigeons in the balcony. The builder has reserved that area for STP.

What are the charges for vegetable chopping every day? It is clearly mentioned in our sale agreement.


I wonder if we are going to emerge alive out of this pandemic. Ever wondered that we never remain satisfied with whatever life gives us. What has come, shall go someday. These times, may be good or bad, your perspective, but shall end someday. And that day, we may miss how staying home was a bliss and not a punishment. Though, a balance is a must, but remember there have been days when we longed for staying back, away from the life's race. 

I read this somewhere, sometime -

वक़्त अच्छा जरुर आता है....
बस कमबख्त वक़्त पर नहीं आता...!!

पल-पल तरसते थे जिस पल के लिए...
वो पल भी आया कुछ पल के लिए...!!





Saturday, 25 April 2020

Your Story...

Each one of us is a walking story. All the stories are entwined with each other. You come across other people's stories for a few chapters. Some rendezvous are brief, some last for chapters. Some chapters are wonderful, some are painful. You will have moments when you just want to turn the pages of certain chapters too fast, and want to read a few of steadily and happily. Some chapters make us cry for weeks, the others fill us with a lifetime of joy. A bad chapter may not be the end of your story. Keep reading!

The beginning of your story is always soothing, carefree! You learn so much about yours and others' stories in the beginning. The words keep pouring in at the beginning of the story. Gradually, you get accustomed to your story. This is how it works. You can't change the end, for it's already engraved in the chapters. You have to soak yourself truly into what you see and feel. Some stories end too soon, whereas some last longer. To make your story famous, you have to read it loud, louder, loudest. Nobody can open a certain page of your life and say they know you. Similarly, you may find someone else's story more interesting and blissful from a distance, you never know what their journey was about!

Moments come and go in the lines of those chapters. Nevertheless, you cannot skip chapters. This is how the circle of life works. You have to read each and every line. You have to meet all the characters. We are villain in someone's story, and angels for the others. Stories keep the earth rotating. Some days there is sunshine, and sometimes just frost spread all over. We have to live it all, for there is no means to jump over to the other chapter. Time goes on at its pace. 


It is you who is living your story. You are the hero in your story, and it is unique in all the ways, just like you. The genre of your story may be humor, adventure, mystery or a history. But it can never be a fiction! Your story can definitely be a legacy for generations to come, if you live it so. You have to leave the traces of your moments to make it an inspiration.

Why not multiply the intensity of happier moments in the pages of your story, and read and re-read it! Heal your bruises and replenish yourself while turning each page of your story.